• John Panepinto

6 Modern Day Challenges That Hold You Back From Getting What You Want Out of Life

Updated: Dec 26, 2020

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It’s easy to forget just how lucky we are to be alive, let alone, alive in this era of complete abundance of opportunities. The fact that you are reading this right now is a massive privilege.

Despite that, in today's world - people love to make excuses, complain, and blame other people for 'holding them back' from going out there and getting what they want out of life.

There is a lot more opportunity out there for you than you think, and the excuses you tell yourself as to ‘why’ you aren’t on the pathway to achieving your biggest goals, living your best possible life, and maximizing your potential should be minimized.

Today we’re diving into the 6 biggest modern day challenges that hold you back from getting what you want out of life

This is article is meant for you to look deep within and see where these obstacles may be holding you back in your own life.

At the end of the article I am going to be sharing a great source you can use to overcome each of these and truly unlock your potential for good.

The Six Deadly Challenges:

The six challenges that hold people back from getting what they want out of life are as follows:

1. Seeking External Validation

2. Victim's Mentality

3. Lack of Patience & Discipline

4. Entitlement

5. Lack of Direction

6. Having a Fixed Mindset

These are widespread, and often-times we are predisposed to them without us even knowing.

They may come from the situation you were born into, your environment, your upbringing, the people you spend the most time with, and a handful of other factors that are initially out of your hands, or that you aren’t conscious of.

Though it may not be you who put yourself in the hole, there is only one person who can get you out of it – you.

Let’s dive a bit deeper into each of these.

Challenge #1 – Seeking External Validation

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This is when you are focusing on gaining the approval of others, more than you are focusing on gaining the approval of yourself.

Instead of finding your own inner voice, and becoming in touch with your own goals and what is truly important to you – you let external influences cloud your thoughts, focus, and energy.

This is extremely common nowadays with social media and being ‘plugged in’ all the time.

Living for others also creates a need for external validation – having a need for others to validate you, rather than validating yourself and generating your state from within.

- This is doing things to please others, rather than doing things to please yourself.

- This is doing things to get others’ approval, rather than approving of yourself.

- This is also caring more about what others think about you, than what you think about yourself.


  • Excessive time spent on Social Media

  • Making decisions to please others, at your own expense

  • Not having a back-bone

  • Not being in touch with your own inner voice and what is important to you

Why This is Dangerous:

When you live for others, you’ll never truly hit your mark of doing the things that are best for you. You’ll miss out on doing the things that truly satisfy you, and you’ll never reach the goals that you desire deep down.

Over-time this will lead you into doing something that you aren’t passionate about, and you will also have a bigger hole to dig yourself out of later on as time goes by – if you decide to make the shift towards pursuing your purpose later on.

Challenge #2 – Victim's Mentality

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Limiting beliefs or a ‘victim’s mentality’ is when you mentally limit yourself, and feel as if you aren’t worthy or capable of achieving certain goals or dreams of yours. It is also when you want others to 'feel sorry' for you.

You may feel as if the world and other people are out to get you, or want to keep you down. Or that you were just 'dealt a bad hand' in life.

You may also feel that others are ‘lucky’ or ‘cheated’ their way to the success they have, and that you are either ‘unlucky’ or purposely ‘held down’.

This comes from a scarcity mindset (rather than abundance mindset), and it believes that other people’s success is at your expense and that there is a limited amount of success to go around (not true).

Limiting beliefs and ‘victim’s mentality’ also means that when things get hard, you make excuses, complain and don’t take action.


  • Making excuses

  • Blaming others

  • Excessive Complaining

  • Wanting others to feel sorry for you

  • Negative self-talk

Why This Is Dangerous:

The limiting beliefs / ‘victim’s mentality’ challenge has the potential to keep you stuck in the mud for a long time, and feel okay with it.

If you don’t believe you are worthy of your own goals or think they are possible in the first place, you are sure as hell never going to achieve them.

Belief is the starting point – it is a must.

Not only that, but you cannot be a victim with your own goals, you must be a conqueror. These are two completely different mindsets.

Over time, the victim mentality ensures that your goals become ‘pipe dreams’ that slip away from you as the window of opportunity vanishes as time passes.

The conqueror mentality says ‘why wait’, and starts taking action now to turn those goals into living realities - conquering all obstacles that arise along the way.

Over time, this mindset and the action that comes with it - compounds into real results & real success.

Challenge #3 – Lack of Patience and Discipline

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This is when you give in to short-term pleasures, at the expense of long term rewards.

Not having patience means you make short-sighted decisions and don’t give enough respect to the bigger picture. In turn, without patience, you won’t have a clear understanding of how things play out in the long run.

Not having discipline means you give in to temptations when they arise (many of which will be of benefit in the short run, but an expense in the long run). Discipline will keep you on your course. Without it, you won’t be able to stay on course long enough to truly see any results.


· Lack of Patience – Picking $100 today, instead of picking $1000 next week.

· Lack of Discipline -- Letting temptations and external distractions stop you from doing the things you know you need to do (e.g. going to a party instead of studying for a test)

Why This Is Dangerous:

Without patience, you won’t make decisions that benefit you in the long run. In making decisions that only benefit you in the short-term, you’ll lose out on great progress and opportunities to get ahead in the long run.

Discipline ties into this – it takes discipline to do the things that don’t benefit you right now, but will benefit you later.

Do the easy things now, and you will have a hard life later (having to play ‘catch-up’).

Do the hard things now, and you will have an easy life later!

Challenge #4 – Entitlement

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Entitlement is expecting things to be given to you, or to be handed to you.